Monday, October 14, 2013

Pop-culture: BIRG or CORF


I offer this little pondering for your pop-culture tastes. If you have a psychological interest, you might want to read on as well.

One used to call it name-dropping; now calls it BIRGing.

You have no doubt heard the expression “burgeoning success” from time to time. It is rare but it is used. The Chicago Tribune used the phrase not long ago in a headline about the punk trio Gossip: “Gossip shouts out its burgeoning success” (April 14, 2007).

Halfway around the world, only a day earlier, the Noosa News, a small paper published in a coastal shire of Australia, used the word to describe the success of a local farmer’s market: “They started off as a small experiment aimed at giving local growers a platform for their produce. But the Noosa Farmers Markets are now a burgeoning success, attracting a wide variety of stallholders and customers.”

Burgeoning. Good word. However, have you heard someone described as a “BIRGing success?” If you have not, thanks to author Jake Halpern, now you may.

In his book Fame Junkies, Halpern brings the psychological concept of BIRGing down to the pop-culture level. BIRG is an acronym for “Basking In Reflected Glory.”

Halpern notes that BIRGing and other fame junkie behaviors are evidence of American addiction to celebrity culture. Look at the magazine covers when you are purchasing your groceries — our nation apparently cares if Britney Spears’ poodle has puppies with Al Gore’s beagle. Such inanities are more widely noticed in our fame-fascinated society than famine in Ghana.

However, BIRGing is less about celebrity fixation and more about self-fixation. Psychologist Robert Cialdini coined the expression, arguing that BIRGing has its roots in social identity theory, which states that people will generally act in ways that boost their self-esteem. Consider these examples that may land a little close to home.

Cialdini studied student patterns on Mondays following Saturday football games at six universities. After their teams won, students were more likely to don school accessories — sweatshirts, T-shirts or hats. We can see the same trend at work by tracking team clothing sales following a championship win. Super Bowl and World Series winners have burgeoning crowds of BIRGing admirers.

They are basking in reflected glory.

We love to share the glory. Nevertheless, we do not love to share the humiliation of a loss. If something goes wrong, we immediately distance ourselves from the disaster. The paired opposite to the BIRG is the CORF — “Cutting Off Responsibility for Failure.” In the same campus research, Cialdini found that weekend wins resulted in student descriptions of how “we” played — a BIRG. Diction following team losses was dominated by descriptions of “their” performance — a CORF.

If there is a success, we love to be a part of it. We BIRG.

If there is failure, we run like crazy. We CORF.

CORFers may also cope through “blasting,” where one’s victorious opponent is ridiculed in a reputation self-defense mechanism. “The Yankees are a bunch of mercenary thugs worshiped by fair-weather fans.”

How ironic … a CORFer may blast a BIRGer.

Other BIRGing research shows that people will praise celebrities with whom they have some form of personal connection. Cialdini gave subjects a biography of Grigori Rasputin that cast the Russian religious misfit in a villainous light. He gave half of the readers accounts that matched Rasputin’s birthdate with their own, and those who shared this commonality with the mystic overwhelmingly described him more favorably.

We all BIRG from time to time, but it goes by a different title: name-dropping. Who has not socially networked by mentioning their association with someone who has name recognition?

“I went to high school with .…”

“My family traces their ancestry back to .…”

All of which makes me wonder.

Would those who know me be more likely to BIRG or to CORF?

Wednesday, October 9, 2013

Gratitude


Viktor Frankl, the eminent psychologist and founder of the so-called Third Viennese School of Psychotherapy (Logotherapy), provides a revealing example of what it means to express gratitude for wholeness and wellness. Frankl, who died in 1997 at the age of 91, was a prisoner in the concentration camps during World War II. Dr. Gordon Allport, in his preface to Frankl's significant work, Man's Search for Meaning,[1] says that  

"there he found himself stripped to a literally naked existence. His father, mother, brother and his wife died in the camps or were sent to the gas ovens, so that except for his sister, his entire family perished in these camps. How could he -- every possession lost, every value destroyed, suffering from hunger, cold and brutality, hourly expecting extermination -- how could he find life worth preserving? A psychiatrist who personally has faced such extremity is a psychiatrist worth listening to" (7). 

Frankl answers Allport's question when he recounts his experience immediately following his liberation from the camps:  

"One day, a few days after the liberation, I walked through the country, past flowering meadows, for miles and miles, toward the market town near the camp. Larks rose to the sky and I could hear their joyous song. There was no one to be seen for miles around; there was nothing but the wide earth and sky and the larks' jubilation and the freedom of space. I stopped, looked around and up to the sky -- and then I went down on my knees. At that moment there was very little I knew of myself or of the world -- I had but one sentence in mind -- always the same: "I called to the Lord from my narrow prison and he answered me in the freedom of space."  "How long I knelt there and repeated this sentence, memory can no longer recall. But I know that on that day, in that hour, my new life started. Step for step I progressed until I again became a human being" (96). 

Frankl, released from arguably the most "leprous" episode in the history of humankind, could do nothing but kneel before his Creator in a posture of overwhelming gratitude. From that point of thanksgiving, he marked his renewal as a human being. Likewise, our wellness, our wholeness, our very healing and health, our becoming wholly human depend on our being able to celebrate and give thanks for the "freedom of space," for the liberation and cleansing God has brought to us, often mediated by influential people we love and the people who love us.

When Jesus touches and cleanses us, releasing us from the prisons of grease, grime and gossip, how does he do it? Through people. Through relationships which have changed us. Unfortunately, we often forget to go back and offer our gratitude to these God-inspired and enabled persons who have changed our lives.

Sue Bender, in her book Everyday Sacred,[2] describes how she began to develop an attitude of gratitude. It had, she says, something to do with an exploding turkey:   

Last month my husband Richard and I decided, at age 60 and 63, it was finally time to be grown-up and responsible. Neither of us is practical about business or financial matters. We went to a lawyer and started the process of making a will and a living trust for our sons. 

"What would you like to do in case there's an 'exploding turkey?'" the lawyer asked.  "Exploding turkey?" I asked.

"What if the whole family was together at Thanksgiving and the turkey exploded?" he asked. "If the four of you were killed at that moment, who would you want to have your worldly goods?"  That turned out to be a terrific assignment. A chance to think about the people in our lives, a chance to be grateful and express our gratitude. I decided to create a new ritual. I would stop at the end of the day, even a particularly difficult day, and make a list: a gratitude list. Who or what do I have to be grateful for today? (110).   

I can imagine a preacher using the story in a sermon.

I can also imagine a writer making an invitation. It would go something like this. Take a blank sheet of paper. We are going to take a few minutes now to play the role of the Samaritan in Luke 17:11-19 by returning to the one person who has been a healing force and presence in our lives. Many of us will think of our parents. For the purpose of this exercise, let us assume that our parents have been there for us as the wonderful parents they are. Let us go beyond the parental influence to that of a friend, teacher or mentor. Please do three things: Write the name of this person on this paper. Then, jot down a brief paragraph summarizing this person's role in bringing cleansing and wholeness to your life and express your gratitude for him or her. Finally, covenant with me to contact this person during the week to share your thoughts. 

In fact, I think I am going to do that this week. I would invite you to give yourself some holy silence. Let the holy hush be part of this experience of gratitude.

Let us remember as well, that Jesus brought this person into your life at the right time. Do not forget to give thanks to him.




[1] (New York: Simon and Schuster, 1984)
[2] (HarperSanFrancisco, 1995)

Saturday, October 5, 2013

Seed-sized Faith



While attending Asbury Seminary in the late 1970s, I became re-acquainted with David Thompson. He had grown up in the same church from Austin, Minnesota in which I had accepted Christ and found my first grounding as a Christian. He was a professor of the Old Testament. One evening, I went to his home quite discouraged. Now, I do not remember details, but I was in particular discouraged with my discipleship. Some people had some wonderful, powerful experiences to which they could refer. I could not. Finally, as I was wrestling to get out what I was sensing, he said something like this. “George, you have made such awesome strides over the years. I remember when I first saw you in Austin, Minnesota at the church. You were such a shy and backward person. When I see you now, I am amazed at what God has done.” Then, he told me the shocker: “George, when I preach around the country about spiritual growth, you are one of my examples. I have one example of people who make a dramatic and emotional turn-around in their lives. I have another example of people who make steady, regular, steps of faith as their discipleship path. You are that example.”
I am thinking of this long-ago conversation because it still summarizes my approach to discipleship. Of course, I celebrate the major steps of faith that people can take. Nevertheless, right now, I want to celebrate the small steps people may take every day.
Luke 17:5 The apostles said to the Lord, “Increase our faith!” 6 The Lord replied, “If you had faith the size of a mustard seed, you could say to this mulberry tree, ‘Be uprooted and planted in the sea,’ and it would obey you.”
The disciples were thinking that they needed a large-sized faith. However, even the small faith, the size of a seed, can have major implications over the course of a life. If I could use the text as an analogy for a moment, you might hardly notice it from day to day. However, over the course of a life, you may well have told a mulberry tree to move from its place on land and go to the sea, and it obeyed.
In fact, I came across a little article that reminds us that each of has such power in the steps we take.
            Every time you take a step, you generate six to eight watts of energy. But then — poof! — it dissipates into the air. If only you could capture it.
            An architectural firm in London is now looking at ways to capture that energy on a large scale and turn it into electricity. For example, 34,000 people walk or dash through Victoria Station in one hour, rushing toward their trains. The firm’s director says, “If you harness that energy, you can actually generate a very useful power source.” According to Fast Company,[1] this architectural firm is working to develop vibration-harvesting sensors. They would implant these sensors in the structure of train stations, bridges, factories or any other building frequently traveled by commuters, vehicles or machinery. The devices could capture the rumblings of all this activity, turn them into electricity, and then store it in a battery.
            All of us need to make such steady changes to bringing us closer to the person God wants us to be. We might have some surprise at how that change takes place in most of us. We might need the gift of someone else seeing the changes and telling us what he or she sees.  


[1]           (September 2006)